On the fear of being abandoned…

On the fear of being abandoned…

You know that thing – where your neediness drives someone else away or vice versa? The more you feel someone’s neediness, the more claustrophobic you feel – or the other way around: the more you feel someone’s avoidance of intimacy with you,...
“All I want is to be loved”

“All I want is to be loved”

So hungry have we been for permission to be wild and free after the shaming and miserable confines of conditioning around our sexuality, that a new industry of ‘sex-positive’ gatherings, festivals and workshops is booming… a plethora of options...
On transcending victim/perpetrator dynamics

On transcending victim/perpetrator dynamics

I know it’s a tremendously complex issue. And perhaps I’d do better to stay clear of it, rather than stirring up shit storms… I just know that the current narrative we have isn’t working and it’s time to create a new one. This is a...
#freebleed

#freebleed

Goddess or Slut? Artist or Narcissist? Creatrix of life or big-mouthed bore? Worthy of shaming or of reverence? Passionate activism or poor taste? Take your first thought and turn it around: what does it reveal about you? I bleed to make human life possible. My womb...
Masturbation as Prayer

Masturbation as Prayer

Masturbation is a way of thanking the universe for having a body. A possible misfortune of the movement towards ‘conscious’ sexuality is that it polarises us even more into ‘sacred’ and ‘non-sacred’ forms of sexual expression. There...