Welcome to the world of Ruby May, international illuminatrix, dream-weaver and purveyor of permission and possibilities...


Ruby offers gatherings and events and around the world on the theme of intimacyplay and authentic expression, weaving together spaces where we can find the magic in the mundane, the sacred in the profane, our power in our deepest vulnerability, and witness our magnificence unfold…

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Where in your everyday life do you have the time and space to deeply connect to yourself, exploring questions, desires, interests and issues around your self, sex and intimacy?

Where can you discover your body as a gate into more aliveness, pleasure and meaning?

Where can you experiment with new steps towards passion, vulnerability and power; or inquire about Eros as a phenomenon beyond sexuality – the expression of life and spirit in you, others and the world around you?

Authentic Eros provides such a space.



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Musings

A selection of video talks & interviews with Ruby May

Media

Truth Bites

#freebleed

Goddess or Slut? Artist or Narcissist? Creatrix of life or big-mouthed bore? Worthy of shaming or of reverence? Passionate activism or poor taste? Take your first thought and turn it around: what does it reveal about you? I bleed to make human life possible. My womb...

Masturbation as Prayer

Masturbation is a way of thanking the universe for having a body. A possible misfortune of the movement towards ‘conscious’ sexuality is that it polarises us even more into ‘sacred’ and ‘non-sacred’ forms of sexual expression. There...

On Showing Off

On showing off… What is the difference between showing off, self-expression or art? What is ego-masturbation and what is pure, creative expression of spirit? Is it either or? And who gets to decide? To celebrate ourselves and allow our inner worlds to become...

On shaming men’s desire

I know that sexual shaming is rampant universally, but through my work I often come into contact with how women – feeling threatened by male desire – so often shame men, sometimes overtly, but often unconsciously. I know many of us have been victims to...

On suffering

There is nothing quite like suffering as a catalyst for climbing the ladder of perspective. Up and up, each rung a slightly more whole picture, a little more Truth. Each step, you realise you feel a little freer. Every time you pause and take a breath and realise you...

Cyclical Living (from a recovering intensity junky)

In this era of abundance of and easy access to intense experiences, there seems to be the tendency to try and cram in as much as possible. Entertainment, festivals, self-development workshops, plant medicine rituals, erotic encounters…we are intensity junkies, our...

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Testimonials

Wow. Wow. Wow. Such an indescribably beautiful and powerful (and fun!!!) experience. What a precious gift you are Ruby May. Such an honor to witness you lovingly encourage and hold space for each person to embrace themselves as their own precious gift. Truly extraordinary

Justine Speed

Workshop producer

Wow. Wow. Wow. Such an indescribably beautiful and powerful (and fun!!!) experience. What a precious gift you are Ruby May. Such an honor to witness you lovingly encourage and hold space for each person to embrace themselves as their own precious gift. Truly extraordinary

Justine Speed

Workshop producer

Ruby has such a deeply heart held way of facilitating, like the air that you don’t notice keeps you alive. She radiates and is an invisible weaver. I saw profound shifts in both myself and others that are deep and expansive.

Lotus Kruse

Coach, mentor, speaker

Ruby is an inspired and inspiring leader. In the workshops I have attended with her, I have found myself able to connect with issues that terrified me at the outset. Her gentle and thoughtful approach is clearly the result of years of study and experience. And yet she manages to hold space with a light touch and a sense of joy and humour.

Cara

Participant

The fusion of sacred sex with conscious BDSM is the new frontier of sexual and spiritual growth. Ruby and her team are the perfect caring, creative, and courageous facilitators to nurture and expand this work.

Barbara Carellas

Author of ‘Urban Tantra’ and “Ecstasy is Necessary”

All my chakras have aligned, my heart has burst open like a ripe peach. This has been a remarkably quick but deep journey through resistance, old prejudices and isolation. At 61, I have opened to more aliveness, joy and potential. 

Avalyn

Participant

As I keep going over my experiences this weekend I discover that in addition to the actual focus of the workshop, I’ve also learned a ton of healthy habits about how to interact with other people on a number of levels. From a professional level as a facilitator or teacher, to a personal level as a supporter or witness to the private level of how to communicate with an intimate partner with body, breath, voice and eyes. Life lessons. This all has immense value to me.

Martin

Participant

The level of trust and intimacy, astounded me and gave me permission to explore those parts of myself that are often hidden. Not only to explore, but to celebrate them, be nourished by them. I danced with the reality of my illusions, I found joy and laughter in my vulnerability, I transformed my shame into strength. Forever grateful

Sido

Participant


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