Welcome to the world of Ruby May, international illuminatrix, dream-weaver and purveyor of permission and possibilities...

Ruby offers gatherings and events and around the world on the theme of intimacyplay and authentic expression, weaving together spaces where we can find the magic in the mundane, the sacred in the profane, our power in our deepest vulnerability, and witness our magnificence unfold…

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Where in your everyday life do you have the time and space to deeply connect to yourself, exploring questions, desires, interests and issues around your self, sex and intimacy?

Where can you discover your body as a gate into more aliveness, pleasure and meaning?

Where can you experiment with new steps towards passion, vulnerability and power; or inquire about Eros as a phenomenon beyond sexuality – the expression of life and spirit in you, others and the world around you?

Authentic Eros provides such a space.

Join me on a journey deep into the human psyche and heart: an embodied exploration of the nature of eros and desire, our relationship to power, vulnerability and the simple beauty of play.

In Love and Service is a weekend workshop exploring the erotic alchemy of female dominance and male service and its potential for pleasure, expansion and personal and collective healing.

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A selection of video talks & interviews with Ruby May


Truth Bites

Totally Fucking Uninspired

Totally. Fucking. Uninspired. I am in the midst of total lack of inspiration at the moment. There is nothing that is exciting me and I have no creative urge, no ambition. I used to be an inspiration junky! in the past I would be going through an existential crisis...

On Penetration

I wouldn’t go as far as to say that I’d never have anal sex with a man who hasn’t been penetrated himself… I’m not really one for principles… and besides, who hasn’t done slightly questionable things in the name of being...

On Prayer

Living in a culture that values the head over everything else, as I enter events and rituals that are heart-spaces, I always meet a wave of sadness in me as I acknowledge what a process it is, to transition… to move from a cerebral gadget-riddled ADD culture of...

Feeling pain as creative activism

On feeling helpless in a world that seems to be crumbling before our eyes… Each moment brings possibilities for creative activism. In a world that teaches you to be an obedient and numbed little consumer, to listen to authority rather than yourself and to...

Vagina Dentata

A curious thing it is, that the default world feels ok with the yin qualities of the vagina – their capacity to receive a penis – and rather less ok with their yang qualities, like their capacity to ejaculate, menstruate and give birth.. Except of course...

On slut-shaming men

I know that sexual shaming is rampant universally, but through my work I often come into contact with how women – feeling threatened by male desire – so often shame men, sometimes overtly, but often unconsciously. I know many of us have been victims to...

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Wow. Wow. Wow. Such an indescribably beautiful and powerful (and fun!!!) experience. What a precious gift you are Ruby May. Such an honor to witness you lovingly encourage and hold space for each person to embrace themselves as their own precious gift. Truly extraordinary

Justine Speed

Workshop producer

Ruby May creates profoundly safe spaces for people to explore themselves, their desires, their sexuality and the possibilities of play. Through her presence she offers permission for participants to go deeper into the truth of who they are, in all its messy marvellousness. Offering no easy answers, she creates spaces where our humanity can shine and we can open up to each other with our vulnerability, our magnificence and our complexity intact. I highly recommend Ruby to anyone who wants to become a richer, deeper, shinier version of themselves.

London Faerie


Ruby has such a deeply heart held way of facilitating, like the air that you don’t notice keeps you alive. She radiates and is an invisible weaver. I saw profound shifts in both myself and others that are deep and expansive.

Lotus Kruse

Coach, mentor, speaker

Ruby is an inspired and inspiring leader. In the workshops I have attended with her, I have found myself able to connect with issues that terrified me at the outset. Her gentle and thoughtful approach is clearly the result of years of study and experience. And yet she manages to hold space with a light touch and a sense of joy and humour.



The fusion of sacred sex with conscious BDSM is the new frontier of sexual and spiritual growth. Ruby and her team are the perfect caring, creative, and courageous facilitators to nurture and expand this work.

Barbara Carellas

Author of ‘Urban Tantra’ and “Ecstasy is Necessary”

All my chakras have aligned, my heart has burst open like a ripe peach. This has been a remarkably quick but deep journey through resistance, old prejudices and isolation. At 61, I have opened to more aliveness, joy and potential. 



As I keep going over my experiences this weekend I discover that in addition to the actual focus of the workshop, I’ve also learned a ton of healthy habits about how to interact with other people on a number of levels. From a professional level as a facilitator or teacher, to a personal level as a supporter or witness to the private level of how to communicate with an intimate partner with body, breath, voice and eyes. Life lessons. This all has immense value to me.



The level of trust and intimacy, astounded me and gave me permission to explore those parts of myself that are often hidden. Not only to explore, but to celebrate them, be nourished by them. I danced with the reality of my illusions, I found joy and laughter in my vulnerability, I transformed my shame into strength. Forever grateful



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